Such a rule did not hold in my time, at least not among the people I knew. The only women any of us ever saw were women that were dating our friends.If it were not permissible to date them in our turn, we would have had no one to date.I remember a few girls who went out with as many as three of my friends without anyone thinking that they—or the men they dated—were behaving improperly.Back in those days—before computers, or portable phones, or, even, electric typewriters—the rules were different.In the Vanity Fair article, David Buss, a University of Texas psychology professor, says that apps like Tinder contribute to “a perceived surplus of women,” among straight men, which in turn leads to more hookups and fewer traditional relationships.Here’s the thing: This surplus of women is not just “perceived” but very, very real.(Of course, I go back a long way, to a time when there were streetcars going up and down Broadway.I could buy a milkshake for a All the telephones were black.) It was common, around that time, for men and women to meet at parties or at dances.
Other than the fact that the show is strictly heteronormative and very, very white, the show normalizes infidelity and superficializes love into prom dresses and romantic getaways.
Also, people don't wear prom gowns every day, and it is unrealistic to make people fall in love in situations that do not translate into everyday life.
My favorite thing is when Bachelor fans are surprised that relationships end.
As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.
Much as the death toll of WWI caused a shortage of marriageable men in the 1920s, today’s widening gender gap in college enrollment has created unequal numbers in the post-college dating pool.
Imagine a simpler time: A well-dressed single gentleman pulls up to the front of a single lady’s home in the early evening, steps out of his car, and approaches her front door.